Crush Triangle Trouble!

Q: I’ve known a boy that a like for about five years. The problem is that he might like friend number one, and friend number one doesn’t like him. Then friend number two likes him, but he doesn’t like her. And I like him, and I think he likes me. He comes over to my house a lot, but I don’t know if he’s just there for friends one and two, or for me. I like him so much. What should I do?

Sounds like a crush triangle if I ever saw one! Alright, so here’s the deal. I have no way of knowing whether your guy friend likes you, friend number one or friend number two. But I can help you figure a few things out while you’re waiting to see what will transpire.

First, let’s figure out whether this is the kind of guy that you should be crushin’ on. I know it’s summer and all, but I have a little homework for you! Take an hour or so and spend some time reading your Bible and asking God to give you wisdom in the situation. Then draw a line down the center of a piece of paper to make two columns. On one side, make a list of the reasons why you think your guy friend would be a quality choice for you. On the other side, make a list of all the great reasons to be single at this time of your life.

Next, just be yourself around him and friends one and two. Don’t be a flirt, don’t create (or get sucked into) drama–just focus on enjoying a fabulous summer! That way you’ll have nothing to lose whether he chooses you, one of your friends, or none of the above.

Rest assured that if a relationship with this guy is what’s best for you, God will work out the details in His perfect timing. But, you have to accept that God may know more than you do about this guy and the situation (duh, right?), and trust Him even if He says no. Make sense? This is where your homework assignment comes in. Whatever the outcome (a relationship with this guy or a season of singleness), you’ve got a nice reminder of all the things you have to be thankful for!


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